Once upon a time back in 2005 there was a long haired relaxed girl who dreamed of some day mustering up the courage to rock her curls with confidence. After five years of contemplating, some negative self talk, and watching tons of YouTube tutorials, the day finally made it’s way into her life. Oh yeah she thought, it’s about to be on! The excitement of seeing those beautiful shiny curls looking like the girls from YouTube was intoxicating and had me on cloud nine.
Sweet fantasy huh? Now let me tell what really happened after I decided to return to my roots.
None of that nonsense I fantasized about that’s for sure! I transitioned for six months and had not done my due diligence so it made it difficult to manage two textures, the new growth and the relaxed ends. What was even worse was I had no one to help or teach me about my hair. And to add fuel to the fire, my curls looked nothing like what I saw on YouTube. They were wiry, dry, coarse and tight. What had I done, I thought. Had I made a mistake? Was it too o late to turn back. I expected this to be easy. I was sooo wrong.
Shoot, as I look back, I’d been better off just cutting it down to the new growth and starting from scratch. Which is exactly what I now recommend it to anyone considering this. It can be a hard pill to swallow if you’re used to having long hair like I did, but I promise you it’s the easiest way to go. Transitioning for me, was the hardest part of going natural. I hated fighting with two textures and not knowing what to do with it. So if you’re new on the natural scene and feeling like you may not be able to do this, trust me, you can. I did it and so can you.
So after 2.5 years of natural hair hell, and no available resources within my community, I felt it was imperative that I learn how to take care of my hair.
Year 3, the struggle with tangles and a non existent routine were in full effect, and I was oblivious to the fact that water truly was my hair’s friend and not the enemy as so many curly girls had suggested. I felt my hair just wasn’t where I though it should be, especially length wise. I blame a lot of it on just not knowing those crucial things that every natural should know. Needless to say, I still had much to learn.
My natural hair aha finally occurred for me in year 4! I know right, dang it sure took its sweet time, lol.
Now I was cooking with gas, I had buried my head in so much research that I felt like I had gone back to school for another degree .
But seriously though, the info I learned turned out to be my hair’s saving grace! I tell you what, the moment I put something pH balanced on my natural, oh it was on and cracking! Couldn’t tell me nothing after that.
From that moment on, I’ve made it my business to do better by my hair at each new phase of my natural hair journey. And I encourage you to do the same.
If you’ve been struggling with your hair for more than a 1 year with no desirable results, then it’s time to book a curl coaching session with Vee!